Forty plus reasons to be grateful, this year.

Your Attitude Gets You To Happy

Your Attitude Gets You To Happy

I start and stop on this platform, often. It’s a habit I’m not proud of…one that I think about, constantly. (Here’s me whining): There are never enough hours in the day or mental capacity to do one more thing. (Here’s my resolution): However, with 75 days until my birthday, I’m going to try and build a new habit. Plus I just read a really great article on Lifehack.org that gave me five things to think about as to why being grateful is a good self-care exercise. The bigger lesson is that it just lists five…and I’m going to start this post with the same number because, essentially, I need to take on this task in bite-sized portions. That being said, I’ve enlisted an accountability partner to help me hit targets. Also, these are random…and may be reordered over the next few weeks as I determine how to pen these.

The five things that were profound, from that Lifehack article?

  1. Gratitude softens hearts
  2. Gratitude uplifts the soul and spirit
  3. Gratitude transforms the giver and receiver
  4. Gratitude is free
  5. Gratitude is a gift that keeps on giving (it literally takes on a life of its own)

40+ Reasons Perri duGard Owens is gratefulI’m focused on #2, today, because ‘adulting’ is hard. And for self-care, on my start day with this process, I need to focus on uplifting my own soul and spirit. (On a side note, I truly believe in what our pastor says, “you can’t rely on others, sometimes you have to just pat your own self on the back…uplift your own spirits when you’re down…and be your own cheerleader! The Lord is on your side, but some times you just have to say ‘Self, let’s get it together!'” (He really sounds like Bishop Michael Lee Graves when he says this, btw.))

So, here it goes, on my own list…inspired by the article and other things, outlining very different reasons as to why I’m grateful.

First 5 Reasons:

    1. Dope, adult conversations with my sister. We didn’t grow up together, but we became friends along the way. I, in fact, fell in love with my sister years ago when I
      Lauren duGard Thomas

      We spell our maiden names differently for several reasons. Get us in a room together and ask us why, you might find it to be a hilarious exchange.

      realized that regardless of our Dad, who ties us together biologically, I genuinely wanted her in my life.  We recently had a ‘hard conversation’ where she admitted to me that she’s been holding back with me – in part because she’s still thought of herself as the ‘little sister.’ But some of the other things were areas where I need to communicate with her as an adult and become more introspective, evaluate (and make sure) how I treat her in  our adulting chapter. It was uncomfortable in spaces, but more importantly, it was clarifying and healing, for both of us.

    2. Open-toed shoes. I love shoes and open-toed shoes means it’s my favorite time of year Spring – Fall, when it’s warm and acceptable to wear them. (It drives me nuts to see women (in the winter) trying to extend their open-toed shoes by wearing them with tights or stockings – yuck!) It also means that I’m generally wearing dresses. I prefer the warmer times of the year…and luckily in Nashville, that’s three out of four seasons!
    3. Past Clients. They teach me a lot, personally and professionally. Good and bad.
    4. Family & Friends who have passed away. Jeanne Campbelle-Kennedy, Isaiah Gibbs, Shewanna Buchannan, Memama & Bop-Pop and our two (miscarriages) children.
    5. My cousin, Lachanta “Chelle” Hayes (New Title). She’s so kind, so sweet, so thoughtful and gracious…and quietly ‘hood.’ Even though I wasn’t cool enough in high school to hang out with her but a handful of times, over the past 10 years, we’ve become much closer. In the past year, we’ve shared even more together…and I’m so honored that she trusts me, that she finds the friend in me and that I’ve found in her. Our stories are very different…but they are so alike, in so many ways.

 

3 thoughts on “Forty plus reasons to be grateful, this year.

  1. I look forward to the next installment. I have always said you were a good writer for law, journalist, family historian or novelist.

    Well, my dear, this first installment is very intriguing because over the past 2-3 weeks, I have been comtemplating ‘worry vs concern’, and most recently determined that I am going to focus on a scripture where Paul speaks in Phil 4:4..”Rejoince in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!”
    This refueled an ongoing reflection concerning how to replace the frustration and stress caused from worry, and how to replace those outcomes. When thinking about what I actually have to Rejoice about, the mental listing of the blessings I am given daily slowly (sometimes, quickly) evaporate the worries, and clarify what should only be a concern. So my reminder is ‘Rejoice Always’ to begin hammering the repetitions needed to make this a healther journey that becomes a longterm habit.

    Now what is the connection that sparked this response? Rejoincing reminds me to focus on the larger picture of what I am grateful for….grateful to gratitude is a small leap that for me, begins the process of reducing the mountain of worries, yet leaves me with a few conerns and a huge bushel & a Peck of gratitude named Rejoince Always!

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